As we fell asleep on the rocking train, Summer quickly moved to Winter, marching past Autumn in a huff. To fall asleep in a tangible, humming humidity and wake up in a blanket of heavy fog and swirling mists by the highest peak in Vietnam, was like setting ourselves as characters in a time-travelling fantastical adventure, and remaining perpetually dazed by the experiences before us.The town, Sapa itself, is akin to a ski resort but without the snow. Hotels and Northface shops sit cosily on hills set in every direction, though one cannot see further than a few metres ahead to know that this is the case. Restaurants proclaim the promise of a woodburning fire, few actually delivering, and the Hmong tribespeople in their wellies shout 'Where you from' loudly as we pass by. Hot chocolate is the drink of choice, usually served with the sugary condensed tinned milk favoured by Vietnamese over that of the cow.
One afternoon, a Mancunian and a Scouser sat at a sofa, blowing hot air into their hands and shrugging off the fierce cold.
One imagines the sharing of backgrounds could mean a shaky start, for the famed rivalry between the two cities is second to none. Both would also insist that this history of animosity runs deeper than the Battle of the Reds. When away from home, however, whether in London, Sapa or Timbuktu, Northerners are a tight clan, who put local grievances aside and claim one other as brethren, bantering ruthlessly against the South. Such solidarity is only tossed off in a pub on Saturday afternoon.
Northerners being a rare breed amongst the Hmong tribe village of Sapa, we agreed to catch up that evening with Phil and Hoa, the Mancunian-Vietnamese couple who run Ethos Travel, somehow finding ourselves in an Egyptian Shisha Bar decorated as a Bedouin tent with a full-on decor of Valentine's Day. The world around us was pink and red, with rose petals scattered everywhere including in the toilet bowl.
The main attraction of Sapa is the trekking and for that reason, the very next day I found myself in a brand new hot pink Northface jacket and some snug fleece-lined black leggings ready to strut up a mountainside or two. On a serious note, this was one of the best experiences I have had and the highlight of our trip to Vietnam.
When I was seventeen, I cut a knee length checked skirt into a minuscule skirt and a boob tube. I also once tried to go clubbing with a pashmina wrapped around me instead of a dress. My sister would tell me now that with such similar fashion sense, I must have been a Hmong orphan cast away from the tribe.
A trip into the local market, where buffalo legs, chicken feet, pig oesophagus and dried squid are delicacies hotly contested over, found us laden with meat (normal), rice paper, coriander, carrots, spring onions, eggs and bananas. My holds my hand on a regular basis already and laughs loudly and jostles us along, much to the amusement of the numerous family members we pass.
An hour's climb up hill and we can still see no more than our breath evaporating in front of us and hemp and indigo growing beside our feet. The fog is never ending. We hear a bell and some kettle drums and a school comes into sight. Young children are dancing in rows, synchronised claps above and below whilst old women watch, wrapping hemp around their hands, fingers stained blue and green.
My's house is humble, walls of bamboo and a corrugated iron roof. There is no electricity, nor light. The home is split into three rooms, and the eaves hold corn to feed the animals, rice to feed the family. Traditional marriages mean that the wife will live with the husband's family - so before long, mother-in-law, sisters-in-law, cousins and children flock into the house to eat with us. For with the exception of when trekkers come to visit, they all eat plain boiled rice three times a day, every day. It is a celebration, a feast when we come and I am so glad that we provide the opportunity to feed so much of the family a hearty meal.
The fire sits in one of the rooms, smoke blowing everywhere and low wobbly stools sit close to the floor. The food is prepared on the mud floor or in metal bowls. Nothing is spared and the fat of the meat is melted down to use as oil. Everybody sits close by as the fire is the only source of heating and it is effing cold. We are served stir-fried chicken with carrot and onions, pork and greens with rice. Rice wine is poured out into shot glasses out of a plastic water bottle. This was to be consumed in large quantities over the next three days. No English is spoken, but the constant chatter of the females around us is captivating.
Another five kilometres we walked that afternoon which was all downhill. The mud was wet and there were few footholds to stop the ungraceful slithering and sliding act which was our only way to climb down the hill. A child ran down the hill past us in a pair of sandals, putting us to extreme shame. Terror creeps up on you slightly when you peer over the edge and see how far you could fall if the mud sent you flying in that direction. Mist everywhere meant that one would suddenly find themselves staring into the black beady eyes of a buffalo with no prior warning.
A night at My's sister's house led to much merriment and a few sore heads the next morning after several litres of rice wine was consumed. Much the same as lunch, we ended up eating with around 10 relative-in-laws and children and watching some bizarre Korean vampire show on television under the single lightbulb that was in the house. We slept in the open, on a low bed under a mosquito net, with a thick blanket.
Twelve kilometres the next day, mainly by road, took us down the valley and as we climbed the mist slowly rose giving us the famed view of rice paddies that Sapa is known for.
My has never been to the city. Nor has she seen the sea. This is the case for the majority of people that surround us in the hill tribes. It's curious. How can one imagine a world, a life, having not seen a sprawling metropolis in glinting sunlight, the ferocious blaring of horns in deadlock traffic, the concerted faces as swarms of people walk to their offices, the gym, meetings, restaurants, cafes, shops? The observation of urban culture as it passes you by? Or the expanse of an ocean, where your eyes search the horizon for where the sky meets the sea? The vivid colours of the sunset - gold vermillion, shades of fuchsia, violet and periwinkle dancing with the clouds? The salt spray, the roar and ebb of a tide, grains of sand between your toes as you sink beneath the surface? The joy to see fish and coral beneath pellucid waters.
But My has seen the changing seasons over the hills of Sapa. The ornate finery in the rice paddies as they dip down the valley. They look like steps for God to ascend down from heaven. My has seen children chasing their father's bike with glee across a corrugated iron bridge, with no hesitation at the cracks that reveal the gushing river below. The breaking backs of men building the foundations of a house, together and with no payment except a hearty meal. A family of twenty sitting together round a fire with a simple spread. Buffalo, pigs, chickens, goats, dogs and cats roaming together and doing their bit.
Whilst we sit humbly, at times abhorrent at the poverty that many of them live with, respectful of the endless toil we see around us, sorrowful that most children may never see the sea, develop a love/hate relationship for the city and all of its meddlesome quirks, may never go to university and see a full education, will marry and stay in the village they grew up in, next door to the house they were born in. They will face most, if not all, of the hardships of the earlier generation for whilst the tourist trade in Sapa has reaped benefits, it is part of their culture to live exactly the way they are and always have been. It takes reminding that the lessons in life taught here are no better nor worse than the ones taught of the children who see the city and the sea. Like us. My does not miss what she has never known and we are not right to perceive the quality or the richness of life as poorer than what we have. She certainly doesn't think that way. And I have learnt to believe her.
My's biggest challenge at the moment is saving money for a chimney. Her children suffer from the cold, smoke inhalation. She worries for a bad harvest which will mean that there is not enough rice for the family. Sapa's rice paddies have been exhausted and there are few minerals left in the soil, which means that they can only harvest once a year. Her husband works in the summer in the fields, for no pay, simply for the food that they can bring to the family table. Any excess is traded in the village for other basic necessities. My does not have a bank account where she stashes her earnings from the treks. She has never learnt the concept of saving nor is quite bought into the long-term benefits of an expensive chimney. One day she came across a glimmering rainbow trout in the market, and in her delight - having never seen or eaten one before, spent a lot of her cash to be able to carry the rainbow trout proudly 5km uphill to her family to feed them for one night. That is My. She has the biggest heart.
Heavy breathing, slipping and sliding up and down muddy tracks, stopping to enjoy the views, staying in local villages with families suckling their babies, fetching water from bamboo poles that run down the mountain, poking the fire, preparing simple yet delicious food for the people who come to stay and themselves. Learning from the generosity of My and others who, in English oftentimes broken, share pictures of their rituals, routines and culture. All in a glorious landscape surrounding us, unbroken beauty and the never-ending horizons of green hills.
